How do you respond to compliments?
It was my birthday this past week. That means, for so many of us, that it’s a day when we receive kind, heartfelt, loving messages from our friends and family.
Compliments and kind words used to be hard for me to accept. I would blush and look away. I would shrug off the nicety by saying something like “Ah, it’s no big deal” or “I’m no different than anyone else.” And then I would quickly change the subject.
But your ability to accept compliments is essential to boosting your happiness.
It’s actually a form of self-care. That’s because the words you say when you accept a compliment impact how you feel about yourself. If you put yourself down, you’re actually telling yourself that you’re not worthy of positive, uplifting words…or love.
It’s not always easy to really FEEL the love from others, and it’s certainly not always a breeze to believe that you’re worthy of that love. But it’s so important to see that you ARE worthy of every bit of love that’s showered upon you.
That’s why I believe it’s important to work on fully receiving love into your life. To allow yourself to really absorb the messages. To feel gratitude that others took the time to share kind thoughts with you. And to know deep in your heart that you DESERVE those loving words. Because you do.
The next time you receive a compliment, pause for a moment, take a breath, and HEAR the kind and loving words. Then smile, look the person in the eye, and say "thank you.”
And here’s a bonus tip — if you receive words of of kindness in print (like a text, social media message, or card), read them more than once. Even if you have to force yourself to hear kind and loving comments. That’s how you will help yourself be able to fully absorb the compliments. Then you can collect those words somewhere together. For example, I keep all my testimonials from clients together in one place. The act of copying and pasting such deep compliments helps me really process those words. And it allows me to re-read them whenever I need some uplifting words.